Divorce and the Holidays
By: Cynthia Diggs
Even in divorce, the holidays can still be bright for your children.
- Model good cheer. Your cheerful attitude will reduce your children’s stress.
- Simplify. Reduce obligations. Over-scheduled children feel more anxiety.
- Prepare them. Let your children know their visitation schedule in advance.
- Be the grown-up. Don’t show anxiety about being alone—they shouldn’t have to worry about you.
- Start new traditions. If old traditions conflict with visitation, or are too expensive, replace them with new traditions.
- Accommodate your former spouse’s visitation. Be flexible with your own plans.
- Help your children celebrate with the other parent. Shop for the other parent’s gift with your children, and encourage their excitement about seeing the other parent.
- Give time over money. Avoid competing on gifts; quality time makes great holiday memories.
Put your children first, and model generosity of spirit. These things make the holidays happy for your children, and for you.
Cindy Diggs, Board Certified in Family Law and Civil Trial Law, Holmes, Diggs & Sadler 5300 Memorial Drive, Houston, Texas 77056, 713.802.1777 www.holmesdiggs.com